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Grief Zelana Montminy Grief Zelana Montminy

When Love Feels Heavy

Love often reveals absence as clearly as it creates connection. This essay explores the quiet grief that lives inside both partnered and unpartnered experiences where longing adapts goes unnamed and settles into the body as fatigue numbness or loneliness. Through a nervous system lens it reframes relational ache not as failure or ingratitude but as awareness of unmet belonging and eroded containers of care in modern life.

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Overwhelm, Grief Zelana Montminy Overwhelm, Grief Zelana Montminy

Loss That Accumulates Without Permission

Not all grief arrives with a clear event or permission to slow down. Some loss accumulates quietly through changes that were never integrated such as relationships that faded identities that shifted and seasons that ended without acknowledgment. This kind of unrecognized grief does not disappear. It settles into the nervous system as fatigue irritability numbness and overwhelm and naming what changed becomes a necessary step toward steadiness and regulation.

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Grief, Overwhelm Zelana Montminy Grief, Overwhelm Zelana Montminy

The Kind of Gratitude We Forgot

Gratitude isn’t a performance or a list of blessings. It’s the quiet courage to notice what’s still true, even in a hard year. This reflection explores real, grounded gratitude—the kind that steadies the nervous system and sits beside grief without demanding cheerfulness.

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Parenting, Grief, Overwhelm, Focus Zelana Montminy Parenting, Grief, Overwhelm, Focus Zelana Montminy

We’re Living Against the Season

As autumn invites us to slow down, many of us feel the quiet tension between nature’s rhythm and modern life’s relentless pace. This reflective essay explores what happens when our biology, environment, and culture fall out of sync — and how “cozy season” might really be our body’s way of seeking balance, rest, and reflection.

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