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Grief Zelana Montminy Grief Zelana Montminy

When Love Feels Heavy

Love often reveals absence as clearly as it creates connection. This essay explores the quiet grief that lives inside both partnered and unpartnered experiences where longing adapts goes unnamed and settles into the body as fatigue numbness or loneliness. Through a nervous system lens it reframes relational ache not as failure or ingratitude but as awareness of unmet belonging and eroded containers of care in modern life.

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