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Resilience, Overwhelm, Grief Zelana Montminy Resilience, Overwhelm, Grief Zelana Montminy

Loss That Accumulates Without Permission

Not all grief arrives with a clear event or permission to slow down. Some loss accumulates quietly through changes that were never integrated such as relationships that faded identities that shifted and seasons that ended without acknowledgment. This kind of unrecognized grief does not disappear. It settles into the nervous system as fatigue irritability numbness and overwhelm and naming what changed becomes a necessary step toward steadiness and regulation.

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